Verhaedge 2016
Verhaedge 2016
I have always shrunk from the act of beginning, from the first word,
the first touch. The restlessness when the first sentence has to be formed,
and after the first, the second.
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This structure is well known; it comes down to what Lacan in his Semi-
nar XI calls the becoming of the subject. The central element in this
structure is the lack, better known as Lacan’s invention, the object a. It
is positioned in-between the subject and the Other and causes the never
ending interaction between those two. The subject identifies with the
signifiers coming from the Other, with the aim of answering the desire of
the Other. This alienating answer will never be enough, and the net result
is separation. It is never enough firstly because the lack is such that there
is no final answer to it (it is a lack in the Real, ‘for real’), and secondly,
because an answer via a signifier is beside the point. Consequently, the
process starts all over again, with another attempt, and yet another, thus
continuing the back and forth movement between subject and Other, as
demonstrated in this drawing (Verhaeghe, 2006: 226).
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ject constitutes the basic fantasy, in which both the subject and the Other
dance in a particular way around the ever lacking object a. Transference
then, is the actualisation in our everyday life of the particularities of this
basic fantasy, based on our own history.
Because of the processes involved, meaning identification and
separation, transference entails three passions. Love is the passion that
drives the subject towards identification with the desire of the Other.
Hate is the opposite, as it causes the separation from the Other. In both
instances, the subject does not want to know, which is the third passion,
either because it identifies far too easily with the signifiers coming from
the Other, or because it refuses them.
A closer study of these passions reveals that two of them can be
understood as a driving force, emanating from the two basic motives
that according to Freud govern our lives: Eros and Thanatos. Eros drives
us towards the union with the Other; Thanatos does the opposite. The
third passion, our not wanting to know, is all-together on another level.
I consider it a consequence of the two others: the more we identify with
signifiers coming from the other, the more knowledge we acquire, and
paradoxically enough, the better we can avoid our own truth.
Anxiety then, is the affect that we may experience during these processes.
In neurosis, the most well known anxiety is that of not being able to
answer the desire of the Other, of not being good enough to fill in his
or her lack. The consequence is that the Other leaves us, the dreaded
Veut-il me perdre, does he want to get rid of me? (Lacan, 1994 [1964]):
214). For Lacan, this is central, both in the becoming of the subject and
accordingly in transference. Less well-known is the anxiety of being the
perfect fit to answer the lack of the Other. The dreaded consequence here
is that we disappear into the Other. The first version is typically hysteric;
the second one is typically obsessional-neurotic; both of them determine
the transference in a particular way.
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less disappeared. In the same period, a young hysteric came to see Freud.
She was sent by her father as well, albeit against her will. Eighteen-year-
old Dora is looking for answers concerning her sexuality and gender,
and her search is very obvious in her dreams. In one of them there is a
recurring sentence: Sie fragt wohl hundert mal—she asks a hundred times
(Freud, 1978 [1905e]: 97). Freud doesn’t bother about the questioning;
he produces answers and presents himself as a guarantee for the correct-
ness of those answers. Unlike little Hans, Dora does not accept his au-
thority, and leaves. At the end of the case study, Freud notes in triumph
that he has been appointed as a professor and that his nomination must
have meant a slap in the face for the young hysteric who refused to be-
lieve him and hence who refused to be cured.
Both case studies are exceptions, the typical Freudian analysis
ran in two stages. The first stage was usually successful. The interpreta-
tion and the deconstruction of the neurotic symptoms brought relief. As
a result, the questions underneath, to which those symptoms had given
an answer, became conscious. What does it mean to be a woman? How
can we think and live a sexual relationship? What does it mean to be a
father? During the second stage, the one that is obvious in the case study
of Little Hans and Dora, Freud presented himself as the one who knows.
He gave answers to those questions, based on the patriarchal society of
his time. That is: based on the social order that had caused those symp-
toms in the first place. Freud even elaborated an anthropological guaran-
tee for this social order. According to him, the paternal authority harks
back to an underlying historical reality. Once upon a time, there was a
primal horde, dominated by an almighty primal father who forbade his
sons access to the females. The sons revolted, and one day they killed the
father. After the murder, they fell prey to feelings of remorse and guilt.
The memory of the original deed and the feelings of guilt were stored in
the collective memory of mankind and provided the foundation of our
patriarchal moral system. (Freud, 1978 [1912-13]), and 1978 [1939a).
Freud took the transferential position of the reassuring father
who guaranteed that everything would turn out for the best. A number
of his patients were not convinced, meaning that their analysis became
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interminable. Even Freud himself was not convinced. His doubt appears
in a casual humorous remark about the three impossible professions, Ed-
ucating, Healing and Governing (Freud, 1925f). Each of them is impos-
sible if one expects an infallible father. Any educator, politician or analyst
who believes himself to be an infallible master, will do a disservice to his
pupils, his constituency or his patients.
In his first theories Lacan will endorse the Freudian father. In his later
theory, he will share Freud’s doubt and give it a structural explanation.
This shift in Lacan’s thinking is quite spectacular: from the almost reli-
gious paternal metaphor, with the Name-of-the-Father and the phallus as
the massive answers to the desire of the crocodile mother, to the ‘There
is no Other of the Other’. In this shift, the original reassuring function
of the Freudian father turns into its Lacanian opposite. Instead of guar-
anteeing that the primal father exists, it is the function of the father to
guarantee that something is lacking, that the big Other is not whole. This
opens a pathway for the subject to assume symbolic castration and to
leave the all-embracing determinism of the imaginary order behind him
(for an in-depth study, see Verhaeghe, 2009). It is the basis for human
creativity.
The very idea of symbolic castration is unthinkable in Freudian
theory. In Lacanian praxis, it is crucial and it presents a radical reversal in
matters of transference. Based upon his theory and his personality, Freud
used to take the guaranteeing paternal position towards his patients.
Based upon Lacan, the analyst—insofar as she or he wants to guarantee
something—will take the opposite stance: that is, there is no final clo-
sure, there is a lack and an opening in matters of desire and enjoyment,
and this opens a possibility for change.
‘Castration’ then is just another denomination for the human con-
dition. It is no longer castration, because that expression still refers to a
phallic omnipotence. The better term is ‘the not-all’. From that point
onwards—that is the recognition of the not-all—the subject needs to
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rethink his individual position towards authority. In the best of cases, the
mourning for the failed father may give birth to a subject that is able to
make a number of choices, knowing that there is no final answer.
The trouble for a Lacanian analyst is that every analysis starts
with a transference that puts him in the position of the subject who is
supposed to know. Meaning in the position of the Freudian father. This
position is impossible, and as long as this transference is at work, psy-
choanalysis is a sham—une escroquerie—with the analyst as an impostor,
as Lacan said in 1977, in Belgium of all places (Lacan, 1981). No wonder
that he considered shame to be the most appropriate affect for the posi-
tion of the father.
This brings me back to my introduction, as it explains my anxi-
ety today, when starting an analysis with someone new. Will I be able
to take this position without being the dupe of it? Or, without making
the patient the dupe of it? How can I help someone to traverse his basic
fantasy with the result that he can make his own choices? The analytical
discourse is the reverse of the discourse of the master, and the formula of
the analytical discourse shows that the analyst has to take the place of the
object a. But this is an impossible position as well and requires creativity
from us—there is no recipe.
The way transference is handled, determines the way an analysis
runs and ends. In Freudian analysis, more often than not it becomes
interminable. Let us not forget that analysis is about love and hate, just
as transference is. Analysis can end as every love story does: in disap-
pointment and hate; more often it ends in mere banality. In the best of
cases the end of an analysis mirrors the beautiful description by Lacan:
‘L’amour, c’est donner ce qu’on n’a pas’. Love is all about giving what one
doesn’t have. In my reading, this is yet another formula for sublimation.
We elevate the object to what it can never be; we give what we don’t have.
This kind of solution goes way beyond the paternal metaphor
and requires mourning for the patriarchal master. Such mourning used
to be the privilege of those who had a successful analysis – although
there are other ways to reach that solution as well. Today, because of the
changes in our society, this privilege might become less rare, because we
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are living in a time where we are leaving patriarchy behind us. By way of
conclusion, I will give you my thoughts on that.
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This is the challenge we are facing, and I think that we are living in the
middle of history being made. Patriarchy entered our world with the
agricultural revolution. It will leave the world with the digital revolution.
It is always impossible to make predictions, but a number of changes
are already clear. Our contemporary gender relations are totally differ-
ent from the male dominance of the recent past. The traditional nuclear
family is disappearing very fast. Generally speaking, the digital revolution
is replacing a vertical patriarchal society with a horizontal ‘big brother’
network. The question is: what form of authority will emerge from this
network? As Hannah Arendt wrote in 1954, this is ‘to be confronted
anew by the elementary problems of humans living-together’.
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