Iam ani

cef
ri
endl
yladywhol
i
kemeet
ingnewpeopl
ewhoshar
e
 si
mil
ari
nter
est
s.Themor
etwopeopl
ethi
nkt
hesamet
hebet
tert
he
 mat
ch.

 Mynamei
ssandr
asmi
th .Iwasbor
ninwi
scousi
n,on j
une4,
1981.
 Ihav
eli
vedi
nVi
rgi
niaBeachsi
nceIwasf
our
.Iam t
heonl
y
 daught
eroft
hef
ami
l
yandi
str
uggl
etosur
viv
eonmyown.Igota
 br
andnewEscal
adej
eepwhenIt
urned22.Ihav
eal
way
sbeenav
ery
 act
iveper
son.Icheer
edf
orsi
xyear
s,dancedf
orf
ive,
bef
orei
got
 i
ntocat
eri
ngj
ob.
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eadaught
er (
Isabel
l
a)of4y
ear
sol
dli
vi
ng
  
goodwi
thme.
ihav
ebeensi
ngl
eforabout2y
ear
sandi
nev
erf
inda
 t
ruer
elat
ionshi
paf
ter
 igotseper
atedwi
tht
hef
atherofmy
 daugt
her
.Imethi
m wheni
wasi
nschool
andi
docar
eforhi
m al
ot
 andl
atert
hingswentwel
lforusnott
il
laf
terwel
i
vet
oget
herasa
 coupl
esbef
orei
knewt
heyt
ypeofGuyhewas.
 Ihav
ebeenhur
tal
oti
npastandev
eni
dontl
i
ket
oremembert
his
 si
l
lyst
orybuti
li
ket
otel
lyoupar
tifi
tbecausei
am seei
ngy
ou
 asacar
ingandt
rut
hful
fel
l
owt
otal
kto.
 Igotacat
eri
ngcont
racti
nGer
manyf
orabout6mont
hsandi
lef
t
 t
her
etowor
knotj
ustt
obel
azy
.Af
teri
gotwor
kdonei
waspay
ed
 about100,
000USDi
nev
erknewt
hiswi
i
llhappenandi
senthi
m
 70,
000USDt
ogetnewhousef
orusandwest
artagoodbusi
ness
 t
oget
her.
.Idi
dnott
ell
himy
etwheni
wascommi
nghomey
etj
ust
 becausei
hav
ebeenhear
ingssomer
umor
sabouthi
m.Myf
li
ghtar
ri
ved
 atni
ghtt
hatdayandi
hav
etowai
tti
l
lmor
ningbef
orei
gethome
 andonmyget
ti
nghomei
caughthi
m Redhandedwi
thmyFr
iendMar
ythe
 sameapar
tmentwer
ent
edhav
ingsexandi
fai
ntedspentabout3day
sat
 hospi
tal
bef
orei
wakeupandaf
tert
henOurr
elat
ionshi
pnotwor
king
 outwel
lagai
n.sowehav
etoputast
op
 cany
out
ell
mel
i
ttl
eabouty
ouaswel
landy
ourr
elat
ionshi
p?

 Il
ostmyf
atheri
naf
atal
acci
dentj
uly26t
h2008andt
hathasbeen
 abaddayf
orme.
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emember
ingt
hisandaf
tert
hismeand
 mymot
herst
ruggl
ehar
dtosur
viv
ebecausemymum hadcancerf
orabout
 14y
ear
sil
ostheraswel
lfebr
uar
y9t
h2012.
iknowwhatcauseher
 deat
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ateFat
herf
ami
l
ytheyt
reat
ingusal
ot
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heywantal
lDadpr
oper
ti
esf
rom usandmymum sai
dnot
hey
 canonl
ygetpar
tofi
tnotal
l
.
 wel
lIwi
l
lsaymyFat
herwast
heBestmani
hav
eev
erLov
edhei
sso
 car
ing,
l
ovi
ng,
Godf
ear
ing,
respect
ful
andr
esponsi
blef
atherbuti
 t
rust
edandBel
i
evei
nGodandIknowGodi
sDoi
ngi
sThi
ngsI
nhi
s
 Ownway
.ihav
elear
nTobeaSt
rongwomanhav
ehar
dwor
king.
aswel
l
 asmymum.

 Whatdoy
oudof
orl
i
ving?

 whatdoy
oudof
orf
un?

 howdoy
ouf
indi
teasyt
oli
veal
onewi
thnowomanwi
thy
ou,
whodi
d
 cooki
ngandhomecl
eani
ng

 Formei
hav
enotbeenf
indi
ngi
teasyagai
nnowt
oli
veal
onebecause
 i
li
ket
oseesomeonei
lov
ebesi
demeandshar
efeel
i
ngsandt
alkt
o
 .
.y
ouknowwhati
mean.
.

 Ienj
oyexer
cisi
ngdai
l
ywhi
chei
theri
nvol
veswei
ghtt
rai
ningor
 aer
obi
cs.It
hinki
tisi
mpor
tantt
oexer
ciseandeat
ingv
eryheal
thy
 meal
s.Il
ovet
ogooutdanci
ng,
toni
cer
omat
icdi
nner
sandshoppi
ng
 atl
argemal
l
sli
ket
heMal
lofAmer
ica.Ienj
oyr
omant
icmusi
cand
 sl
owdanci
ngaswel
lanf
astdanci
ng.Ipr
eferr
omant
ic,
att
ract
ive,
 af
fect
ionat
emen.Ibel
i
evet
hatr
omancei
sav
eryi
mpor
tantpar
tof
 t
her
eli
onshi
p.Ienj
oymenwhoar
econf
identwi
tht
hemsel
vesandar
e
 notaf
rai
dtoexpr
esst
hemsel
vesi
nadi
plomat
icway
.

 It
hinki
tisv
eryi
mpor
tantt
hatt
wopeopl
ewantt
hesamet
hingi
na
 r
elat
ionshi
p.Ibel
i
evet
hatt
hisshoul
dbedi
scussedandcommuni
cat
ed
 cl
ear
lywhent
wopeopl
efi
rstmeet
.Idonotbel
i
evei
nwast
ingmy
 t
imeort
heot
herper
sonst
imebecausel
i
fei
stooshor
t.
.Ibel
i
eve
 eachper
sonshoul
dbeal
l
owedt
obewhot
heyar
eandt
obef
reet
o
 gi
vet
hei
rbestf
oreachot
her
smut
ual
benef
it
.Idonotl
i
ke
 cont
rol
l
ingmenwhodonotcommuni
cat
ewel
landhav
eagendasor
 excessi
vepr
evi
ousbaggage.Il
i
kemenwhoIcanhav
eagood
 conv
ersat
ionwi
thandwecancommuni
cat
einamut
ual
l
ybenef
it
ial
way
.
 .
..
.
 Il
i
kemenwhoar
eint
erest
edi
nexer
ciseandphy
sical
fit
ness.Il
i
ke
 menwhor
eadt
oimpr
ovet
hemsel
vesandf
indv
aluei
nsel
fhel
pbooks.
 Ial
sol
i
kemenwhoar
eei
therspi
ri
tual
butnotnecessar
yrel
i
gious.
 Ial
soenj
oyat
tendi
ngagoodchur
cht
hatl
eav
esy
ouf
eel
i
ngbet
ter
 abouty
our
sel
fwheny
oul
eav
e..

 Ihav
ebeenonl
otsdat
ingsi
tebuti
dontt
hinki
wil
lev
erdot
hat
 agai
nimetaguyf
rom Net
her
landnev
erknowheonl
ywantmymoney
 af
terhet
oldmel
otl
i
esandl
ateri
senthi
m moneyt
ocomeher
eal
so
 het
oldmewantt
ogetnewt
ruckt
hati
shoul
dsendhi
m somemoneyt
o
 addupandpr
omi
set
osendbackt
omei
nsomeweeksandaf
teri
did
 t
hathi
snott
alki
ngt
omeagai
nev
enam st
il
li
ndebther
etr
yingt
o
 getl
oanpay
edbecausei
hav
etogetl
oanf
orhi
m becauseoft
hel
ove
 i
hav
eforhi
m..
 Ihav
ebeeni
nser
iouspr
obl
em her
ewi
thst
il
lwi
thl
ateDadbecause
 hi
sfami
l
yst
il
lwantt
ogetal
lfr
om me.
.si
ncei
donthav
eany
one
 agai
ntohel
p..

 Whatdoy
oul
i
ket
omeeti
nawoman?

 whatdoy
ouseeki
nar
eal
ti
onshi
p?

 ar
eyouwi
l
li
ngt
ohav
eanot
herwomani
fyouf
indanygoodone?

 i
dontev
enwantt
ogetmar
ri
edagai
norgoi
ntoanyr
elat
ionshi
p
 becausei
dontt
hinkt
her
eisany
oner
eal
agai
ntohel
pal
lj
ustwant
 moneyandsexnooner
eadyf
oraser
iousr
elat
ionshi
p..

 Ar
eyouachr
ist
ian?

 doy
oubel
i
evei
nGod?

 Howof
tendoy
ougot
ochur
ch?

 whatdoy
oul
i
kedoi
ngatl
eisur
eti
me?

 Il
ovepoet
ry,
books,
wal
ksont
hebeachandcozycandl
eli
ghtdi
nner
s.
 Ienj
oymov
ies,
tel
evi
sion,
musi
c,t
rav
eli
ng,
thedeser
t,t
he
 qui
etnessoft
hemount
ains,
theocean,
sunr
isesandsunset
s.Iam a
 v
eryout
goi
ngper
son,
whol
ovest
odi
neoutt
rav
elandenj
oyt
he
 si
mpl
eli
fe.I
m ahopel
essr
omant
icandv
eryaf
fect
ionat
e.Ihav
ea
 goodsenseofhumorandIl
i
ket
omakey
oul
augh.
Ili
ket
ochi
l
lout
 wi
thagoodbookorwat
chandmov
ieandi
tsev
enmor
efunwheny
ou
 hav
easpeci
alsomeonet
odot
hiswi
th.I
mver
yeasyt
ogetal
ong
 wi
thandav
erygoodl
i
stener
..Il
oveToshar
eMyTi
mewi
thPeopl
eI
 Lov
eandcar
e..

 whati
hopet
ofi
ndi
naman

 Iam l
ooki
ngf
oraspeci
al,
lov
ingr
elat
ionshi
pwi
thauni
queManwho
 i
saf
fect
ionat
e,Handsome,
wit
hashapel
yfi
gur
e,si
ncer
e,easy
goi
ng,
 wi
thi
nter
est
sandchar
act
eri
sti
cssi
mil
art
omi
ne.
..
someonewhowant
s
 ameani
ngf
ul,
ser
ious,
long-
ter
mrel
ati
onshi
p..
.notj
ustaf
ewdat
es.
 Ar
eyout
hatspeci
alMan?
 Iam l
ooki
ngf
orsomeonewhohasagr
eatsenseofhumorandbi
ghear
t,
 i
scur
iousaboutnewt
hingst
hatwoul
dli
ket
oshar
enewexper
iences
 orol
dhabi
ts.
 Iam l
ooki
ngf
orsomeonewhobel
i
evest
hatat
ruei
nti
mat
epar
tner
 l
ooksoutf
ort
heot
herandv
icev
ersa.Whi
l
enav
igat
ingl
i
fe
 t
oget
her
,wear
ecar
ingandconcer
nedf
oreachot
her
'swel
l
-bei
ng
 becausewemakeeachot
hersohappyandwel
oveeachot
herv
ery
 much.
Buti
dontt
hinkany
oneagai
ncanmaket
hishappenagai
nforr
eal

 Igotsomet
hingt
otel
lyoubuti
am scar
edi
fyout
ruel
yhonestwi
th
 menotl
i
keot
her
simeether
e..
pleasear
eyousaf
ether
etal
ki
ngt
o
 meori
wai
tti
l
lmay
bewemeetf
orr
eal
becausei
thi
nkt
hati
sthe
 bestwayt
odi
scusspr
ivat
eissue.

 Dontwor
ryi
wil
ltel
lyouaboutt
hisl
ateram scar
ed.
.
 okwai
tam t
ell
i
ngy
ounow

 PLEASEDONTLETANYONEKNOW THI
SIFYOUCANPROMI
SEMEIWI
LLTELL

 Myf
atherhadsomei
nvest
menti
nNi
j
eri
ameandmum onl
yknowsabout
 t
hisandhet
oldnott
otel
lany
oneaboutt
hisbecausei
tsmeantf
or
 mewheni
getmar
ri
edsoi
canhav
eagoodl
i
vingwi
thmyf
ami
l
yjust
 becauset
hel
ovehehav
eformenotknowi
ngdeat
hwi
l
ltakehi
myoung
 sosadcr
yii
ngher
e..
.

 Al
readyhi
sfami
l
ysol
dal
lhehasev
en6acr
esofl
andhehasi
n
 f
lor
idai
ncl
udi
nghi
spr
oper
ti
esev
enhouseal
ltheyknowsaboutand
 t
heydi
dnotgi
veusapennyoutoft
his.
Thet
hinki
ngt
akeawayt
he
 l
i
feofmymum

 Soy
oucanseei
hav
ebeenst
ruggl
i
nghar
dtosur
viv
e

 wi
shi
canf
indamant
hatwi
l
lmakemeandandmydaught
erhappyand
 f
orgetal
lthi
spast

 Hegotal
awy
ert
her
ethathasal
ldocument
sanddet
ail
showam goi
ng
 t
ogetal
li
sinv
est
mentoutf
ormeandi
tri
edt
otal
ktohi
m butal
l
 i
ssayi
sNObecauseMydadt
oldhi
m bef
orei
sdeat
hheshoul
donl
y
 cl
aim al
lthi
sformeaf
teram f
ull
ymar
ri
edwi
thmymar
iage
 cer
ti
fai
cat
eandot
her
ssoi
canmakesomet
hingoutoft
his

 Thathear
tl
essGuyi
meetf
rom net
her
landal
readygetoutoft
hiswe
 pl
ant
otal
ktol
awy
erwi
thf
akecer
ti
fi
cat
eandwecl
aimt
obe
 mar
ri
edt
oget
heri
fnotGodt
hatsaf
emehewi
l
lhav
egetal
landr
un
 away
.

 i
justneedt
otr
usty
oumor
eandt
hinkmay
bewepl
anf
ormeet
ingand
 knoweachot
herbet
terandknowi
fthi
ngswi
l
lwor
koutf
orusi
dont
 j
ustwantt
ogethur
tagai
npl
ease.
.

 Howsur
eam i
ify
out
ruel
yreadyf
oragoodr
elat
ionshi
pnotl
i
keot
her
s

 i
justneedsomeonet
hatwi
l
lhel
pmeoutgett
hisev
enj
ustaf
ri
end
 notr
elat
ionshi
pandi
wil
lgi
vehi
m someofi
t..
Ihav
etr
iedal
lway
 t
otal
ktol
awy
ert
ohel
pmeoutbet
weenmeandhi
m buthesai
dNohe
 wantgoodf
ormeast
hepr
omi
sehemaket
omyf
atherbef
orei
sdeat
h..

 i
fyouwi
l
lhel
pmeouti
cant
alkt
ohi
m andy
oual
sot
alkt
ohi
m as
 husbandandwi
fewej
usthav
edontl
ethi
m knowwel
i
vef
araway
 .
.j
ustpl
easey
ouhav
etobet
rut
hful
wit
hme.
.

 af
teri
tal
ktohi
migi
vey
ouhi
scont
actoremai
lsoy
oucant
alkt
o
 hi
m pl
easebehonestwi
thmeanddontl
etany
onet
oknowaboutt
his
 j
ustbecauseofDadf
ami
l
ytheymayt
ryt
ogett
hisagai
n..
Thanksf
or
 t
hehonestandcar
ing.
.