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Principles For A Secure Functioning Relationship

The document outlines 15 principles for a secure and functioning relationship. Some of the key principles include collaborating on decisions that benefit both partners, sharing power equally, protecting the relationship from outside threats, communicating openly and addressing issues promptly, showing affection daily, and striving to understand each other fully. The principles emphasize maintaining security, transparency, and mutual care between partners.

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Principles For A Secure Functioning Relationship

The document outlines 15 principles for a secure and functioning relationship. Some of the key principles include collaborating on decisions that benefit both partners, sharing power equally, protecting the relationship from outside threats, communicating openly and addressing issues promptly, showing affection daily, and striving to understand each other fully. The principles emphasize maintaining security, transparency, and mutual care between partners.

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15 Principles for a Secure Functioning Relationship

1. We protect the safety and security of our relationship at all times.

2. We are fully transparent with each other and tell each other everything.

3. If one of is in distress, we drop what we’re doing and minister to that


partner.

4. We base our relationship on collaboration and cooperation, remembering


that all decisions and actions must serve both a personal AND mutual
good.

5. We share power; we are both bosses.

6. We never threaten the existence of our relationship.

7. We jealously protect our primacy as partners from third things, third tasks,
and third people that threaten our safety and security.

8. We are the go-to persons for all matters, making certain we are both the
first to know—not second, third, or fourth—in all matters of importance.

9. We always greet each other with good cheer.

10. We protect each other in public and in private from harmful behaviors,
including our own.

Copyright © 2011-2020 – Stan Tatkin, Psy.D. – all rights reserved


11. We put each other to bed each night and greet each other in the morning.

12. We correct all perceived errors, including injustices and injuries, at once or
as soon as possible, and without stated excuses, intentions, or
explanations.

13. We gaze lovingly upon our partner daily and make frequent and
meaningful gestures of appreciation, admiration, and gratitude.

14. We master the ways of seduction, influence, and persuasion, and avoid
the use of fear or threat.

15. We strive to become experts on each other.

This is a partial list of shared principles of governance examples.


Make your own!

Copyright © 2011-2020 – Stan Tatkin, Psy.D. – all rights reserved

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